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Which do you prefer...Butch or Fem..Or Neither!! And Why???

    • 19 posts
    January 3, 2012 6:22 PM GMT
    loverdestroyed said:
    Exactly. People get way too hung on who they think they want to be with or should be with, because of what they tell themselves they want or like as if it's some kind of check list. It doesn't happen that like, not really.


    no it dnt people need to start feelin more with thier heart and less with thier heads. if your with sum1 and guna be with sum1 it shudnt even come into account what thy look like or are perceived for that individual themseleves r like. it's wrong to judge in anyway you wudnt judge the person you connect with and feel summit for especailly if the feelings r mutural and true back. because the matters of the heart are so much more important than anything people look like or act like on the outside.

    • 15 posts
    January 5, 2012 4:31 PM GMT
    I really love Femme and Girly. But girls with a streak of tomboy is okay so long as it's not butch. I mean just a feminine girl who can have an outgoing sporty attitude.
    • 3 posts
    January 7, 2012 7:36 PM GMT
    this is hard. i've dated both types but i tend to like the androgynous-ish type the best. my current girlfriend is like a soft butch, but she's so much better for me than my previous girlfriend (who was an EXTREME femme). although for me it all boils down to personality.
    • 7 posts
    January 8, 2012 5:51 PM GMT
    Personally I go for femme and girly tomboy types. I have been with the more androgynous types. But if it came down to looking in a club and picking a type, without knowing anything about them, I would go straight for the pretty femme.
    • 2 posts
    January 11, 2012 9:37 AM GMT
    femmes femmes femmes<3
    when a beautiful girls looks at u with that stare,damn thats all i need:)
  • January 20, 2012 5:41 PM GMT
    Alaina said:
    Femme/tomboys. I love me a girl who can doll up, but also rock sweats and basketball shorts. Yum :)

    That is me totally! Love to doll up and go out but also love to come home throw on some bball shorts and a tanktop and drink a beer :)
  • November 20, 2012 5:17 AM GMT
    Fem, average or tom boy but not really into butch women.
  • December 20, 2012 9:19 AM GMT

    Fem, although some sporty tomboy types as well.

    Why?? I must learn to read questions properly!!!

    I like girly girls. I like long flowing hair, I like the smells of a fine perfume and softness of another girls body. 

    I was married to a man for 9 years, ended very badly, I'm not attracted physically to a masculine type now.

    My ideal woman is Marta Menegatti, see pic.


    This post was edited by Deleted Member at December 20, 2012 9:23 AM GMT
    • 9 posts
    December 20, 2012 6:26 PM GMT
    lillield said:
    I really don't have a type... I'll go for anything with a vagina. /Whoreism.

    Couldn't have said it better myself tbh..

    • 25 posts
    December 23, 2012 1:20 PM GMT
    I'm definitely always attracted to Femmes. I'm Butch, and I love the erotic contrast.
    • 25 posts
    December 23, 2012 1:24 PM GMT
    MariaAL said:
    I'm attracted to femme always... if I wanted to meet someone looking like a man, I'd find a real man.
    That's not a nice thing to say. We Butches get enough of that from homophobic straights! There's a big difference between a man and a Butch (and it's not the obvious) We can play around with post-modern male/female roles, but in a more intelligent way, and it can be very sexy. There's no comparison.
    • 25 posts
    December 23, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    CrazyBme said:
    I'm definitely attracted to fem but its hard enough finding someone you get along with. I fem but I do have those moments where I feel like protecting and taking care of the one I love :)
    And? It goes both ways. Being Femme doesn't mean you can't do that. I'm puzzled by some of the misconceptions about Butch/Femme relationships on here.
  • December 25, 2012 8:50 AM GMT
    I cant be with any femmes i just dont find them that attractive there's just something about a girl with a masculine side that's just sexy
  • December 26, 2012 12:30 AM GMT
    I prefer butch. Just something about a woman with short hair and tomboyish clothes that gets to me. Its sooo sexy! <3
    • 27 posts
    December 30, 2012 5:22 AM GMT
    Seriously i do not really have a type! Long hair, i guessed! Because very short hair for myself! :)
    • 3 posts
    January 24, 2013 1:01 AM GMT
    I really find myself being attracted to either of those types.... It depends more on the person and if their confident and able to joke around :)
    • 2 posts
    February 9, 2013 5:21 PM GMT

    I'm the men's porn fantasy...the more feminine the more I like them

  • February 15, 2013 7:43 PM GMT
    Femme tomboys!
    • 73 posts
    April 23, 2013 4:39 PM BST

    definately femme.........the more sensual the better..........waaaaayyyyy better!!!!

  • April 23, 2013 5:02 PM BST
    Vixen said:
    I personally like someone who's fairly similar to myself. Not butch but not a hysterically overdramatic female either. Someone who's just relaxed in themselves and happy to be whoever they feel like being
    uh huh.. I agree..
  • April 28, 2013 6:10 PM BST

    My thoughts are always with a woman who is boyish to soft butch, but finding one who also likes a boyish woman isn't always easy. But I go also with what the woman is like.  If there is that connection great. 

  • April 28, 2013 6:54 PM BST

    I think, no, i know for sure that i like girly girls, those who depend on ***** settle down with a girl who can cook me dinner when i get back from work and who wont feel offended if i take care of financial matters for her. I would not want my partner to bother about how the bills are paid, if she feels like helping, she would be welcome, if she stays at home, it will be her choice too. That said, if that makes me a little hypocritical, so be it. But i wont want my girl to worry about anything under the sun and all she wd hv to do is to love me in turn. :)  

  • April 28, 2013 7:58 PM BST

    I love women who can doll up, but can also rock sweats/basketball shorts and a messy hair bun...because that is what turns me on! 

    • 6 posts
    July 1, 2013 7:09 PM BST

    Ehmmm..
    I prefer butchy ones, don't know why.
    Haven't a good explanation for why.
    I just prefer a girl in trousers? lol

    • 5 posts
    July 2, 2013 12:16 AM BST

    Fem.. Totally Fem