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what makes a lesbian

  • December 24, 2016 4:04 AM GMT

    do you have to find the vagina attarctive toquaify as a lesbian? Everytime I watch the movie Aliens I think of a vagina and I think the vagina is ok but i don't find it to be the most appealing part of a woman's body. So what makes a lesbian. Most lesbians watch gay or straight porn which doesn't make them less gay. Most lesbians use a strap on and like it,does tha make them less gay than those lesbians who don't?

    • 11 posts
    December 30, 2016 9:35 PM GMT

    So, this is not how everyone sees/defines it...but, to me, it's about two things: 1) who do you want to have sex with, and 2) who are you capable of falling in love with. Now, there are people who break this down into stuff like "bi-romantic and homosexual" and whatnot, and you can if you want (or if you just want to confuse people). I don't need to because I only feel sexual desire for women and I only feel romantic feelings for women. You could ask what about [being attracted to or dating] pre-op MTF transsexuals, because I see that come up a lot...and that's where you'd get closer to something you mention, i.e. how important is the vagina. Without going into offensive territory, that's all about what you think makes a woman a woman, not about sexual orientation. In other words, are pre-op MTF individuals actually women to you. That's up to you. 

    That's how I see it, anyway.

    • 38 posts
    May 4, 2018 9:06 PM BST

    I feel like a lebian is a women who is attracted to another women sexually, emotionally, and romantically. I find it odd that they use strap ons that resemble penises, but that's just me. 

     

    I feel like a lesbian would be a women that finds a femenine body attractive as a heterosexual women would find a male body attactive. 

    • 27 posts
    June 8, 2018 9:20 PM BST

    "Wtf... what makes a lesbian is a woman who loves another woman....you don't have to go into discussions about body parts... it's people who love people..."... smiles sweetly and gets off her soap box

    • 1 posts
    July 4, 2018 9:20 PM BST

    [blockquote]silverink17 said:

    I feel like a lebian is a women who is attracted to another women sexually, emotionally, and romantically. I find it odd that they use strap ons that resemble penises, but that's just me. 

     

    I feel like a lesbian would be a women that finds a femenine body attractive as a heterosexual women would find a male body attactive. 

    [/blockquote] I always wondered  why...

    • 8 posts
    September 9, 2018 6:46 PM BST

    Me and my husband had a fun night out. Which for us is almost never. We decided to go to a local strip club and when we pulled up a random girl asked if we wanted to match up. It turned out to be a great experience. She pleased me and I pleased her while my husband watched and enjoyed. It really put my mind at ease and made up my mind that I'm lesbian. I'ts hard for me to understand that I can be this and still be married. I hope we meet up with her again. 

  • September 12, 2018 7:56 PM BST

    [blockquote]kcea said:

    Me and my husband had a fun night out. Which for us is almost never. We decided to go to a local strip club and when we pulled up a random girl asked if we wanted to match up. It turned out to be a great experience. She pleased me and I pleased her while my husband watched and enjoyed. It really put my mind at ease and made up my mind that I'm lesbian. I'ts hard for me to understand that I can be this and still be married. I hope we meet up with her again. 

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    Many wives do just that. Not always at a strip club, of course. Often the other woman is a friend or neighbor. Sometimes the husband watches; sometimes it's just the two women. It all depends on preferences.